Thursday, October 18, 2012

Midnight the Miracle Cat Has Sunny Future | PETA.org

Update: Midnight has been adopted! Her gloomy past behind her, this free-spirited gal has now been renamed Indie. Her new family reports that she is relishing the safe, comfortable indoor life and that she acts like she has known her canine sister, River, who is also a PETA rescue, for years. Indie has discovered catnip, and she is so photogenic that her new family has started an all-Indie scrapbook. If you are interested in adopting a PETA rescue, e-mail us at Adopt@peta.org.

Originally posted September 20:

Midnight the cat had been trapped in a tree for 10 terrifying days. Her owners couldn't be bothered to lift a finger to help her. She had likely been frightened up the tree and didn't know how to get back down, which should have been apparent after the first few hours. A concerned construction worker reported the stranded, distressed cat to PETA.

Seeing as the people responsible for her seemed not to care one bit, one of our Community Animal Project fieldworkers climbed about 35 feet up the tree, secured Midnight in her arms, and made the slow, careful descent. After 10 days without food or water, Midnight was lucky to be alive and was shaken and severely dehydrated, but once on the ground, the grateful cat began to purr. Her owners never allowed Midnight inside and had no plans to do so now, even after her brush with death, but they agreed to allow the fieldworker to find her a new home where she would be safe indoors.

Now Midnight is settling in at PETA's Norfolk, Virginia, headquarters and is waiting patiently for the right adoptive family. She will be microchipped and spayed before adoption. If you are ready to make a lifetime commitment and give Midnight the safe, loving home that every cat deserves, please e-mail Adopt@peta.org.

Source: http://www.peta.org/b/thepetafiles/archive/2012/10/16/cat-survives-10-days-in-tree-needs-new-home.aspx

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Chinese increasingly worried about graft, inequality: survey

BEIJING (Reuters) - Weeks before China unveils its next generation of leaders, a new survey has found that growing numbers of its people worry about corruption, inequality and food safety, while ties with the United States are increasingly viewed with suspicion.

The latest Pew Global Attitudes China Project, which polled more than 3,000 people earlier this year, shines a rare light on public opinion in a country where the government attempts to control information and limit discussion of contentious issues.

The survey, released on Tuesday, comes ahead of a Communist Party congress starting on November 8, where those who will hold power for the next decade will be announced.

"As China prepares for its once-in-a-decade change of leadership, the Chinese people believe their country faces serious and growing challenges," the authors of the survey wrote.

"In particular, the side effects of rapid economic growth, including the gap between rich and poor, rising prices (and) pollution ... are major concerns, and there are also increasing worries about political corruption."

Graft is a particular sore point for leaders of the world's second-largest economy. The Communist Party has repeatedly warned that anger over corruption could threaten its survival, or at least destabilise its tight hold on power.

Half the respondents said they thought corrupt officials were a very big problem, up 11 percentage points from four years ago, while one-third thought corrupt business people were a major concern, up from around one-fifth in 2008.

Many Chinese have been enraged this year by a string of incidents of corruption and misuse of power, including a high-speed Ferrari crash reportedly involving the son of a senior official and a local official photographed flaunting luxury watches beyond the reach of his salary.

More sensationally, Bo Xilai, the former Communist Party chief of the city of Chongqing and a one-time high-flyer, was sacked this year on charges of graft and bending the law to hush up the murder of a British businessman by his wife.

One of the most dramatic shifts in public opinion was over food safety; respondents rating it a very big problem jumped almost 30 percentage points from 2008 figures, underscoring the impact of repeated food scandals on public confidence.

Chinese media report on food adulteration cases almost every day, including the scourge of old cooking oil dredged from gutters to be re-packaged and re-sold, and the regular tainting of dairy products with poisonous substances.

The findings are part of ongoing research in China that has gone on for years, said Richard Wike, associate director of the Pew Research Center's Global Attitudes Project.

"We've reported survey results from China for a decade, and we expect to continue," Wike told Reuters.

The Pew group purchased the data from Beijing-based Horizon Research Consultancy Group, he said, adding that Pew works with Princeton Survey Research International to find reliable local research partners for its global surveys.

BIGGEST WORRY

Inflation remained the biggest worry in the survey although fewer Chinese now view prices as a very big problem compared with four years ago. But a still significant six-in-10 rated it a top worry, down from more than seven-in-10 four years ago.

The party views inflation as a social ill which also has the potential to undermine its grip and legitimacy.

The annual rate of headline inflation has eased since hitting a three-year high of 6.5 percent in July 2011, dropping well below the government's 4 percent target to 1.9 percent in September. Food prices - an area of sensitivity given the country's relatively low incomes - are still running at an average 5.5 percent higher than last year.

The rich-poor divide is another area of concern for the government, and Pew found that almost half of Chinese rated it a top worry.

Diplomatically, Chinese are also more pessimistic about relations with the United States, the survey found, as arguments over everything from Tibet and Taiwan to the value of China's yuan currency took their toll.

The percentage of Chinese who characterized ties with Washington as "one of cooperation" sank to 39 percent from 68 percent in a previous survey.

But half of respondents said they like "American ideas about democracy", up four percentage points.

"Many Chinese - especially younger, wealthier, well-educated, and urban Chinese - continue to embrace certain elements of American soft power. In particular, many admire the United States for its scientific and technological achievements," the authors wrote.

(Reporting by Ben Blanchard; Additional reporting by Nick Edwards in Beijing and Susan Heavey in Washington; Editing by Raju Gopalakrishnan and Cynthia Osterman)

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/chinese-increasingly-worried-graft-inequality-survey-194837810--business.html

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Insurance Education Foundation Director Addresses Industry ...

As aging personnel begin to leave the insurance industry in record numbers, the industry is developing strategies to counteract the shrinking workforce.

With 15 years of property/casualty experience working as a claims supervisor and defense litigator under his belt, Kevin Brown, the new executive director of the Griffith Insurance Education Foundation and current executive director of the CPCU society, understands the urgency in attracting new claims personnel.

In a recent interview with Claims Journal, Brown said the foundation has its own plan to address the coming workforce shortage, particularly in claims.

?One of the first areas that we?re focusing on is claims because clearly that segment within the industry is in need of new talent infusion,? Brown said.

The Next Generation Initiative, as the plan is called, takes information culled from an insurance education and career summit the foundation hosted last year. Representatives from more than 100 industry firms, associations and universities met to address the coming workforce shortage.

The plan encompasses a multi-pronged approach, taking into consideration different messaging vehicles needed to attract the incoming generation.

First, the foundation has created targeted college students by increasing career awareness with those students already entering insurance-related programs.

In addition, the foundation plans to partner with universities to create new RMI (risk management and insurance) programs to expand insurance opportunities at the college level.

?We?re doing things like partnering with Gamma Iota Sigma, which is?an insurance fraternity to work with them to get the word out in terms of RMI career opportunities,? Brown said.

The foundation is also is pairing qualified college students with internship opportunities and offering financial support for internships.

It even plans on developing targeted messaging for high school students.

?For high school kids, we?re going to create a web-based portal to provide students with access to career information and opportunities,? Brown said.

Brown expects collaboration with the CPCU Society to help attract a new generation of industry personnel.

?The respective chapters are the feet on the ground, if you will; they have the connections, the local chapters with the respective colleges and universities,? said Brown.

Listen to the entire podcast interview with Kevin Brown

Source: http://www.claimsjournal.com/news/national/2012/10/16/215513.htm

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Victoria Jackson Doesn't Believe Gay Marriage Exists, Would Carry Rape Baby to Term

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Wednesday, October 17, 2012

On wrinkles, grey hair, 'pertness' and the privatisation of the body as ...

Just reading a lovely, thoughtful post ?On being a babe? or not? by Australia author Susan Johnson (My 100 Lovers, etc) over at her blog, prompted by some comments by Pamela Stephenson on last night?s Q&A.

Johnson talks about the many and complex decisions we make these days in response to our ever-changing bodies, and the pressure to look young:

?Look, no way around it: I am dying. I am on the train that is going in only one direction, and what dyeing your hair or Botoxing your face or getting a surgeon to pull up the skin of your sagging jaw is trying to do is pull the emergency stop cord.

But, hey, folks, the train aint going to stop! It?s going one way, and what the grey hair and the sagging and the wrinkles are telling you is that your time with dark hair and no sags and no wrinkles is over. Move over! Let the unlined youth climb aboard! Unclutch your hands! Let life pass over you, let the trajectory of birth to death continue on its way.?

Mourn your unblemished, smooth skin. Mourn your glossy curls. Yes, it?s a grief, no way around it: it?s a grief because it?s about loss. Loss feels like all the other losses that have come before, all the losses like Russian dolls packed inside you.?

Thinking about this?I thought I?d repost a piece I wrote a few years ago, and which was?first published in The Age (Opinion, 27 Oct 2006, p19) under the title:???Are Wrinkles Really All that Ugly??? Here it is:

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In parts of Papua New Guinea there is said to be a dreaded curse that a witch may put on an enemy to make her breasts stay pert and upright, like a young girl?s, forever.

However, for the customers of the beauty surgeons, portrayed on Jonathan Holmes? documentary ?Buyer of Beauty Beware? (Four Corners, ABC-TV, 23 October), pertness and youth is the dream and the promise. As Dr Josef Goldbaum neatly explains, ?We don?t have to accept what nature throws at us.?

For Meredith Jones, who interviewed plastic surgery patients and their surgeons for her PhD and [2008]?book, cosmetic surgery is just one aspect of contemporary ?Makeover Culture?. Within an ethic that approves working on the self, improvement is regarded as labour rather than vanity, and a commodity for which one shops (and if wise, shops around).

For in the modern, privatised notion of the body ? where the ?civilised thrust? (as an anthropologist once put it) has replaced the ?primitive droop? ? body and mind are separate realms. Flesh is ?nature?, passive and inert, and thus is not only open to being manipulated and controlled by a sovereign mind, but is in need of such control.

As such, our bodies ? like our houses and land ? have become a personal capital, to be invested in, worked and improved. It?s all about managing your assets, and having botox injections in your twenties and thirties becomes a kind of cosmetic superannuation, to protect you from the less bountiful experience of old age. Surely something every good citizen should consider and, if they can afford, take out.

However with the body seen as an ongoing project and investment, there can also be a recurring and sometimes permanent sense of incompleteness.

We keep adding to it ? clothing, hair dye, accessories, push up bras, tattoos, piercings, more clothes, newer clothes, less clothes, muscle building. And we keep taking away: dieting, liposuction, depilation. (Peering into the fridge late at night: if only I can find the right thing to put into it? Maybe this chocolate ice-cream?)

Indeed for all our manipulation, modification and adornment of bodies in the name of individualism, greater pleasure, aesthetic delight, choice, personal freedom and power, we seem to be in the midst of an incredible epidemic of body loathing.

And while, as Holmes points out in his documentary, the surveys show the overwhelming majority of recipients of cosmetic procedures such as breast enhancement are delighted with their results, what of those (usually around ten percent) who aren?t?

It might be fine if they were merely not so happy, or indifferent. But a quick look at websites such as Silicone Holocaust (with a picture gallery not for the faint-hearted) suggests the kind of long-term physical and emotional devastation for this minority that should make all of us alarmed.

It?s also worth noting that these surveys, conducted by the plastic surgery industry, usually only have a short follow-up period: months, rather than years. On the home makeover programs, almost everyone is ecstatic when they walk through that door and see their new improved and redesigned space ? the glossy paint and clean fabrics, the shiny neat surfaces and bold colours. But I often wonder what it?s like to live long-term with these quick fixes.

Sometimes, I?m sure it?s wonderful. Life-changing. And I?m certainly not immune to the seductive lure of modern uncluttered style ? or of slim bodies and smooth skin.

But if I had the money to furnish my house any way I wanted, what would I pick? And if I called in a makeover team, what might I lose?

I love my house, and my house loves me. And while there are things I would like to improve, I?d actually like to keep the current style in which a creative use of old and found things figures strongly. I?ve learnt to find a peaceful balance between beauty, practicality and comfort ? even to see beauty within functionality. I?ve learnt to find an aesthetic that values difference and variation; one that easily accommodates change and use; that recognises the difference between looking new (or young) and looking good.

If it is possible to cultivate a home furnishing aesthetic that appreciates the rich effects of time and brings both peace and pleasure ? one where the patina of age, the scratches and marks of usage are a part of the beauty and story of an object ? can it really be so impossible to do this with regard to our bodies?

If leather can become more beloved, and more sensuous, with age, why not skin?

As the beautiful Italian actress Anna Magnani once said to a photographer: ?Please don?t retouch my wrinkles, it took me so long to earn them.?

[photo of Anna Magnani]

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Love to hear your comments.

And if you are interested in this topic, you may also like to take a squiz at another piece I wrote, From the Primitive Droop to the Civilised Thrust: Towards a Politics of Body Modification. This one was presented at a conference and also included in my PhD thesis:?The Body as Fiction / Fiction as a Way of Thinking.

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Source: http://bethspencer.com/blog/2012/10/on-wrinkles-grey-hair-pertness-and-the-privatisation-of-the-body-as-capital/

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Lance Armstrong Fired from Nike, Steps Down as Charity Chairman

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Farm to fork: Walmart faces sourcing challenge in India - Business ...

Narayangaon, Maharashtra: As Walmart Stores Inc ramps up its operations in India, it needs to find more farmers like Yogesh Todkari. His acre of cauliflowers is big, leafy, and a deep shade of green, thanks to modern irrigation and quality nutrients and seeds - all provided by the world's largest retailer. Most farmers in India, though, don't meet Walmart's standards.

"They train us and assist us right from when the crop is sown to when it's harvested. They give us a higher price than the market for better quality," said Todkari, 29, who works the field in Maharashtra with his elderly father.

Investing in farmers to help them improve quality and efficiency, and getting around the army of costly middlemen, will be key to whether global chains like Walmart and Tesco Plc succeed where local operators have failed to make a profit. It will also be a test of whether India's politically fraught decision to allow in global supermarkets in order to modernise its food supply chain proves to be the right one.

Investing in farmers to help them improve quality and efficiency will be key to whether global chains succeed.

Farm to fork: Walmart faces sourcing challenge in India

"We plan to procure as much as we can via direct farming so the procurement from traders in local markets is as little as possible," said Krishnakant Reddy, who is in charge of direct farming in south and west India for Walmart, which already operates in India through 17 wholesale stores.

Under the reforms, foreign retailers must source at least 30 percent of their goods from local, small industries.

India recently let in global supermarkets, despite heavy political opposition, in the hope of improving the supply chain and bringing down wastage and costs in a country where one-third of fresh produce rots and food inflation is persistent.

Walmart, by far the most aggressive foreign supermarket operator in India, expects to open its first store selling directly to the public in 12-18 months, and aims to turn a profit in 10 years, something it hasn't managed in China after 12 years.

To get there, Walmart plans to sign up 35,000 farmers over the next three years, up from the 6,700 it has now. Fresh produce accounts for about 30 percent of Walmart's sales in its wholesale outlets in India.

Walmart must buy in small batches from small plot-holders in a country where more than 80 percent of farms are under 2 hectares. That means contracting with thousands of farmers will still yield only a few thousand tonnes. In North America, retailers like Walmart can buy from a few hundred farmers who provide hundreds of thousand of tonnes of produce between them.

"It's going to be a huge challenge and requires a lot of work on the ground," Reddy said during a recent visit to Narayangaon, a few hours from the city of Pune where Walmart runs one of its seven farm procurement centres.

Cutting out the middle man

Walmart is trying to learn from the difficulties of local chain operators such as Reliance Industries and Shoppers Stop, most of which rely on middlemen after struggling to establish a strong direct farm supplier base.

Skirting the entrenched network of middlemen, who opposed the government's decision to allow in supermarkets and includes both traders and local markets run by state Agricultural Produce Marketing Committees (APMCs), isn't easy.

States require all farm produce to be sold through government regulated markets, and impose registration and transaction taxes on buyers, in addition to fees charged by middlemen operating in the markets. In some states, including Karnataka, buyers can purchase directly from farmers, but still have to pay taxes and fees both to the APMC and middlemen.

In Maharashtra, where Narayangaon is located, Walmart must truck the produce it buys from Todkari about 20 minutes away to an APMC market and pay fees before delivering it to stores.

"The APMC fee is actually a tax for doing nothing and that is detrimental to direct farming," said Raj Jain, who heads Walmart in India and like the Confederation of Indian Industry, a large trade group, wants to get rid of the APMC system.

Traders were among the most vocal opponents of letting in foreign retailers, a move whose impact will be dulled by allowing states to opt in or out. Under populist pressure, most states plan to keep global operators out, at least for now.

"The government is thinking of cutting us out without even thinking about the families who depend on this. We facilitate trade in these markets. Thousands of jobs across India depend on this," said Rajesh More, a trader at the APMC market in the neighbouring village of Manchar.

There are an estimated 50 million small traders involved in the farm-to-store agriculture business across India, according to the Confederation of All India Traders.

The Congress party-led coalition government in New Delhi defended its decision to allow in foreign retailers as benefiting farmers and reducing dependence on the middlemen network. Congress is also the ruling party in Maharashtra.

"The government has anyway let the foreigners in, which will hurt small store owners, and now they're targeting us," More said.

Handpicked

The region near Pune is one of India's most productive for horticulture, and Todkari is among only 600 farmers to have met Walmart's standards. The retailer targets a small number of farmers who are respected locally and can convince others to work for the grocery giant.

"This is mainly done to build trust as most Indian farmers haven't heard of Walmart and are apprehensive about working with us," Reddy said.

The farmers Walmart selects are suited to modern irrigation, have higher yields and are capable of crop rotation. Walmart's investment in farmers is part of the $100 million initial spending India requires foreign chains to make under the retail reforms.

"Quality suppliers who these foreign chains can do business with are still small in number and so are the supply bases where they can procure from," said Debashish Mukherjee, partner at consultancy AT Kearney.

Walmart buys more than a dozen fresh produce items from the Narayangaon area, including cabbages, tomatoes, onions, grapes, cauliflowers and pomegranates.

The US-based retailer has tie-ups in north India with logistics companies to send fresh produce to store by refrigerated truck - a facility it will extend to other farm bases as procurement volumes increase.

"The produce has to be sent to the store even if cost-wise it's a struggle. It's a business that needs scale and, now with permission to open stores, we'll have that," said Reddy.

Walmart says it pays farmers a premium of at least 3 percent above the market price for better quality produce. What Walmart doesn't buy, the farmer can sell at the local market.

Siddhesh Jagtap, who grows pomegranates in Narayangaon, was not among Walmart's chosen few. "They approached us, but never came back. It doesn't hurt us as they don't procure a lot," he said.

"If their requirements go up and they want to work with us, we will be open. They give a good price and make timely payments ... which is all a farmer wants."

Source: http://ibnlive.in.com/news/farm-to-fork-walmart-faces-sourcing-challenge-in-india/300627-7.html

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Tuesday, October 16, 2012

EXIT Realty Names Craig Witt North Central Divisional President

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Craig Witt was recently appointed President of the North Central Division of EXIT Realty Corp.

By Natalie Terchek

EXIT Realty Corp. International announced the appointment of five Divisional Presidents to aid in the company?s regional growth on Tuesday, October 9. Craig Witt, former EXIT Realty regional president for Michigan, was appointed the position of president of the North Central Division, comprised of Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, North and South Dakota, Nebraska, Kansas, Minnesota, Iowa, Missouri, Wisconsin, Illinois, Michigan, Indiana and Ohio.

Witt is a licensed real estate Agent in Michigan and has owned and operated three EXIT franchises since joining the company in 2004. He has a background in commercial construction, land development and real estate consulting.

?I am extremely excited and optimistic about the future of EXIT Realty,? Witt said. ?We have momentum and a proven track record on our side, along with the best business model and leadership in real estate today.

Witt?s Goals for EXIT?s North Central Division

Witt?s focus will be on growth, development and retention throughout the North Central Division, as well as company-wide. ?I have a strategic plan to accomplish this that aligns with our corporate goals of 3,600 offices and 100,000 agents by 2020 who absolutely love our company,? he said. ?We are the smartest real estate company and in partnership with all of our associates, we will attract new, quality Agents and Brokers who not only share our vision, but are well-equipped to help us reach our goals.?

?Craig has been a leader within EXIT for several years,? Tami Bonnell, CEO of EXIT Realty Corp. International, said. ?EXIT?s strong growth plans combined with Craig?s understanding of the real estate industry in the North Central states make an unbeatable combination, and we are excited about the future.?

Source: http://chicagoagentmagazine.com/exit-realty-names-craig-witt-north-central-divisional-president/

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The Privacy Problem ? Living Our Lives Online - Inkling Media

The Privacy Problem: Living Our Lives Online

We?re at a bit of a crossroads here on the Internet. Technology is advancing at an amazingly rapid pace, and we, the users, are having a hard time keeping up.

One problem we are now facing is that we want to have our cake and eat it, too. Nearly every day I hear or see someone complaining about the lack of privacy on the web, whether it?s from people sharing too much information, to how platforms and networks harvest and use our information.

On the other hand, we all want the best possible online experience. We want more relevant search results. We want our social networks to deliver a personalized experience that is more akin to Kenbook than Facebook. It?s about us, after all, right?

But how do we balance the two? We want to know what our friends are up to, but as Mitch Joel asks,

?How do we control information in a world where everything can be recorded in text, images, audio and video and instantly published for free to the world??

How do we balance our need/desire for privacy with our need/desire for a custom user experience designed for each of us?

Here in Lancaster we have a parallel in the offline world.

We have a good police department. We would all agree that having a police department is a good thing, and we encourage the police to do those things which are necessary to deter crime and keep the peace. There are parts of the city that are a bit more difficult for the police to navigate in cruisers, due to traffic and congestion. As a result, they provide us with a stronger, more personalized police experience, by having police officers on foot, on bike, and even on horseback. These officers have a better chance of maneuvering through crowds and busy streets.

But still, police can?t be everywhere all the time. So a few years ago the Lancaster Community Safety Coalition was formed, and 165 cameras were installed on utility poles around the city. The program is administered by a private non-profit, with funding coming from a variety of public and private sources, and oversight from the city police department and the district attorney?s office. The program has been greeted with a mixture of responses; many like the extra safety, while others believe it is an intrusion on their lives and a violation of their civil rights. And the situation in this small city of 55,ooo people has also been the subject of national and international press.

But, in the past seven years the program has helped solve crimes ranging from murder and assault to robbery and drug dealing. And of course there is also the idea that the cameras might actually deter crime, but there?s no way of knowing to what extent.

We all want to see a reduction in crime to provide us with the best possible living experience here in Lancaster, but we also want our privacy. Online, we want a safe, customized experience, but to what extent? How much privacy are we willing to give up to the Googles and Facebooks of the world?

It?s a tradeoff, and each of us has to make our own decisions. Offline, we know the cameras are there, so how does that affect our public behavior? On the Internet, we need to be aware that what we share publicly on social platforms, and how we search, is data that others can see and use. How will that affect our online behavior?

I value my privacy, but I also share a lot online. On the other hand, what I share is very calculated. There are certain aspects of my life that I won?t share publicly, and we all need to determine how comfortable we are with what we share. Recently a student in one of my continuing education classes bemoaned the level of sharing of some of her friends on Facebook. She gave the response I hear many give:

?I don?t care what you?re eating?

As one who often shares pictures and descriptions of my meals, I explained to her why I disagree. If these are social networks, they are there for the purpose of being social. Part of being social, and of getting to know one another, is engaging in small talk. By ?oversharing? and posting pictures of my meals, I?ve learned a lot about other people as they comment. I?ve also found new recipes and restaurants that I?d like to try.

We all have our own definitions of sharing and oversharing. We all have to decide how much access we are willing to give others to our personal information. On the other hand, if we want a truly personal, customizable experience, we have to understand that there will be tradeoffs.

In a recent post, Mark Schaefer provided a number of quotes from Dave Coplin, the Chief Visioning Officer at Microsoft, the parent company of the search engine Bing.? One of his quotes about privacy really hit home:

?Privacy is a really difficult issue because the line between personal and private is different for every person.?All?we can do is be transparent about what we do. The ultimate search service is like getting the ?usual? at your?favorite?restaurant or pub. You can have local,?personal?service wherever you go, whatever store you visit. ?We all need to approach privacy as a journey and we are all involved in that.?

We want it all. Yes, I want privacy, but I also want to turn the Internet into the Kenternet. I want the search engines to know what I?m looking for. I want the social networks to be intuitive.

There are very real privacy issues. There is always the potential for abuse. But there is also a middle ground between living in a bunker on one hand, and the Truman Show on the other.

I happen to believe that social media actually makes us better people; better businesses. It forces us to live better lives. As Mitch Joel observes,

?Media pundit and journalism professor,Jeff Jarvis, argues that we must re-define ?privacy? in our socially connected iPhone?toting world. His latest book,?Public Parts, submits that privacy is no longer about closing the curtains at night and delisting our phone numbers, but in accepting that a public life creates a better life, mostly because nobody really cares about that awkward photo of you when you were sixteen or that you?re married with three kids.?

For better or worse, there is a new normal in town. It?s up to us to determine? whether we will resist, give in, or perhaps engage in a healthy game of tug of war.

How are you approaching this new world? How do you balance your desire for privacy with your desire for a great online experience?

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I believe that sharing is a good thing. why.

Source: http://inklingmedia.net/2012/10/15/the-privacy-problem-living-our-lives-online/

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Reports: Teen shot in 'prank that went terribly wrong'

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By NBC News staff

An Alabama teen was shot in the head by a friend when a prank backfired, NBC station?WLBT.com reported.?

Jesse Rainey, 15, and seven other teenage boys, were spending the weekend without adult supervision at a rural home in Tuscumbia, AL.com reported.

Some of the teens decided to play a prank and flipped the electrical breaker to turn out the lights, AL.com reported. Colbert County Sheriff Ronnie May told AL.com that Rainey hid in a closet inside the home as part of the prank.

When one of his friends opened the closet door, Rainey jumped out to scare him. The rattled boy fired the .38-caliber handgun, shooting Rainey in the head, according to WAAYTV.com.

"This was a close group of young men who decided to play a prank," May told AL.com. "Right now, we're looking at this as an accidental shooting." No charges were filed.


Rainey, who is a 10th-grade student at Colbert County Heights High School, is in critical condition at Children's Hospital in Birmingham.

According to AL.com, investigators said no drugs or alcohol were involved but "several long guns and handguns" were brought to the home.

?We?ve found no indication that this was planned by anyone,? May told TimesDaily.com. ?We believe this was a prank that went terribly wrong. We continue to pray for Jesse and his family. We hope he is able to return to his family soon.?

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Five Add-Ons for a More Luxurious Bathroom | RichNSpect

We could all use a bit of luxury in our lives: the bathroom is one location where you can seek sanctuary from the outside world: whether you prefer soaking in an indulgent bubble-bath or enjoying a refreshing shower during your private time, you can enhance the experience with these five must-have luxury accessories:

Heated towel rail

If you want to end your bathing experience in the most lavish way possible, wrapping your body in a damp, cold towel is not the way to go: by investing in a heated towel rail, your fluffy cotton towels will be transformed into warm, comfy, cosy sheets, which you can snuggle into upon emerging from your bath or shower;

Especially useful during colder months, once you experience a heated towel-rail, you won?t want to go back to conventional towel-holders.

Luxury wooden shower seat

Sometimes showering can be a tiring and even dangerous activity, particularly when mobility is an issue; thankfully, there are plenty of accessories on the market which will allow you to enjoy your shower in comfort and safety: for a particularly luxurious touch, why not go for a wooden variety with hinges? This type of design will let you fold the seat up when it is not in use, meaning that it won?t get in the way when it is not required; make sure to pick a model which is suitable for your weight, body-type and mobility needs.

Body jet shower units

We are all familiar with typical shower units, which are fixed overhead and pour water downwards over the body: but have you experienced a body jet shower before?

This type of design involves fitting numerous body jet units on the shower cubicle wall, so that water blasts horizontally onto your body, instead of trickling down like rain: this creates an invigorating experience which will have you looking forward to each shower and savouring the massaging jets as they work their magic on your body.

Soft close toilet seats?

Whilst not the most glamorous part of your bathroom, the humble toilet seat is an often overlooked essential which can be easily replaced with an upgrade;

By replacing your toilet seat with a soft-close variety, gone will be the days of loud clattering noises when a clumsy late night trip to the toilet results in the lid slamming shut: these soft-close beauties will slowly and gently close without clattering, making for a more peaceful trip to the bathroom.

Illuminated splash-proof mirror

Whether you need to shave by the mirror or pluck those eyebrows, a bit of extra illumination can make your task much easier: these days, it is possible to purchase nifty backlit mirrors, which will help to shine a light on whatever you need to scrutinise: some of these even come with a motion sensor, so you won?t even have to press any switches in order to activate the unit, minimising mess and fuss.

John Artemis is a bathroom supplies expert who specialises in Kartell UK radiators and Thermostatic Showers.

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Report on Baldwin Hills fracking raises community ire

The environmental impact report on hydraulic fracturing at the Inglewood Oil Field was supposed to address key concerns raised by residents of the Baldwin Hills area.

Instead, the report has deepened tensions between the oil field's owner, Plains Exploration & Production Co., and the community after the findings were released last week.

The yearlong study ? conducted by an environmental consulting firm and paid for by the owner and operator of the oil field ?concluded that the controversial extraction method used at two wells did not affect the environment or health of those living nearby.

But critics, after days of reviewing the study, say it lacks independent scientific scrutiny and that at least one of the peer reviewers has close ties to the energy industry. Moreover, the critics say, the report's conclusion is based on near-term impacts and fails to address fears of long-term damage ? such as the potential risk of chemical additives leaching into groundwater. The report was peer reviewed by two firms selected by the oil company and Los Angeles County.

Los Angeles County Supervisor Mark Ridley-Thomas, whose district includes the communities around the field, advised caution.

"The point is, we have more than one peer reviewer here," Ridley-Thomas said. "It's hardly done; it is up for further examination, further discussion and this is an important step in the process, but hardly a conclusive one."

Funding of the landmark study and selection of the reviewers was part of a settlement with environmental and community groups that had sued Plains Exploration. Officials from the company are scheduled to discuss the study at a community meeting on Monday.

Dave Quast of Energy in Depth, an advocacy group funded by the energy industry, hopes the report will be useful to other gas and oil companies.

"The study reconfirms what scientists have been saying all along; that it's a safe and proven technology that's been used for more than 60 years," he said.

Critics, though, say the report is tainted because one of the reviewers, John Martin of JPMartin Energy Strategy, is a well-known consultant for the oil and gas industry and is already embroiled in a controversy involving another study on hydraulic fracturing. As director of the State University of New York at Buffalo's new Shale Resources and Society Institute, Martin co-wrote a study this spring that said fracking was becoming safe in Pennsylvania due to state oversight and better industry practices.

Environmental watchdogs were quick to question the study's data and point to the authors' ties to the industry. The university's board of trustees asked that the matter be looked at, but administrators found no violation of its ethics or conflict of interest policies. Food Water & Watch, a nonprofit environmental group, says that controversy and the Inglewood study's narrow scope raises more questions about the validity of the Plains Exploration report.

"The job of the reviewer is to look at what's been written and offer suggestions where it is inefficient or where it can be better, not a process to debate the issue," Martin told The Times last week.

Fracking is a technique involving the pressurized injection of water, sand and chemical additives into a wellbore that fractures the rock formations deep below to release trapped oil and gas. But the method has come under fire amid allegations that it contaminates water supplies and increases seismic activity.

Dozens of homeowners who live near the Inglewood Oil Field have seen giant cracks form on their property. The area is on the Newport-Inglewood fault.

All of this comes as new regulations for fracking are being drafted by the California Department of Conservation, which oversees the drilling, maintenance, and plugging of oil, natural gas and geothermal wells. Jason Marshall, chief deputy director, confirmed the department is reviewing the Inglewood report. "As we draft regulations ... we surely will be looking to any information or studies that identify areas of concern, whether those studies focus on individual wells or fields," he said.

That worries Dr. Tom Williams, a retired geologist and engineer, who for 40 years has assessed hundreds of such reports for various companies and government agencies. He fears the study will lead to expanded use of fracking before long-term damage is assessed and will set a bad precedent in California, the fourth-largest oil-producing state. "Hermosa Beach is going through the electoral process to stop oil drilling, and the new oil field operator will probably use the Inglewood Oil Field report as a means of trying to convince voters not to stop oil development," he said.

Jeff Cohn, a resident and founder of Stop Oil Drilling In Hermosa Beach, agrees. "I'm terrified of the domino effect. The repercussions it will have across the Southland," he said.

Environmental and community groups say the Inglewood report is based on the effects of a single fracking stage of two vertical wells, when the company plans to frack horizontally in many stages. Effects those stages might have on the Newport-Inglewood fault need to be taken into account, they said.

But the California Independent Petroleum Assn. defends the method and argues that it has created thousands of jobs, billions in tax revenues and has led to more energy security for the country. Armed with the Plains Exploration study, proponents say they hope fracking will play a key role in California's Monterey and Santos shale formations, estimated to hold 15.4 billion barrels of oil.

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Monday, October 15, 2012

WHY IT MATTERS: Auto bailout

The issue:

The government bailout of General Motors and Chrysler is one of the most polarizing issues of the presidential campaign. Many Americans wonder why $62 billion in tax dollars went to keeping the two automakers afloat in 2008 and 2009. There's little doubt the bailout saved the automakers and huge numbers of jobs. But there's also little chance the government will get all its money back.

Taxpayers are out about $1 billion on the Chrysler bailout. GM stock is selling for less than half the price needed for the government to recover all of its nearly $50 billion investment.

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Where they stand:

President Barack Obama often boasts about the bailout's success, saying the decision saved about 1 million jobs at automakers, parts companies and other businesses tied to the industry. That estimate is backed by a 2010 study by the Center for Automotive Research, an industry think tank. Obama doesn't want to sell the government's remaining 500 million GM shares at a huge loss, but also says he's not interested in being a long-term investor or running the company.

Republican Mitt Romney has argued that GM and Chrysler should have been sent into bankruptcy protection without government money to keep the companies running. Instead, he said private loans should have paid for the bankruptcies. But because of the financial crisis and because both companies were bleeding cash, there was no private capital available at the time. Romney advocated government-guaranteed private loans for both companies after bankruptcy and also said the government should back their warranties. He would "responsibly sell" the GM shares but has given no time frame.

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Why it matters:

GM and Chrysler are major employers, with most of their operations in the Midwest, including Ohio, a pivotal presidential state. Without the bailout, it's likely the companies would have been forced into liquidation. Their factories, office buildings and patents would have been sold at auction and their workers would have lost their jobs.

Now, three years after the bailout, both companies are profitable and selling more cars. GM has made almost $14 billion since leaving bankruptcy protection in July 2009. Chrysler has made $440 million since exiting bankruptcy a month before GM. But the automaker is still a private company, and it did not report numbers for the second half of 2009.

Both companies also are hiring when many employers aren't. GM has added roughly 2,000 U.S. workers since leaving bankruptcy and now employs 79,000 in the U.S. Chrysler has added almost 12,000 workers and now has about 44,000 in the U.S. Since the bailout started in early 2008, under President George W. Bush, the number of jobs in U.S. auto and parts manufacturing has grown by 156,000 to 780,700, according to government statistics. It's progress for an industry whose workforce is still far below its peak of more than 1.3 million jobs in 2000.

Here's the bottom line on the federal money: In exchange for a $12.5 billion bailout of Chrysler and its financial arm, the government got $7.1 billion in debt and a 9.9 percent equity stake in Chrysler. Chrysler has repaid the loans and parent company Fiat bought the government stock. The government got back $11.2 billion, but it won't get any more.

At GM, the government is $27 billion in the hole on a $49.5 billion bailout. Although taxpayers own 26.5 percent of GM stock, the shares are trading for less than half the $53 price needed for the government to recoup all its money.

EDITOR'S NOTE _ One in a series examining issues at stake in the election and their impact on people

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Indian Institute of Packaging to set up new branch and testing laboratory in Bangalore, India

PKBR Staff Writer
Published 15 October 2012

Autonomous body under the ministry of commerce, Indian Institute of Packaging (IIP) will set up its new branch and testing laboratory in Bangalore, India for different packaging products including plastic, metal and jute packaging material.

IIP's new branch in Bangalore will be set up at Sompura Industrial Estate in Dobaspet for which the Karnataka government has allotted four acres land, business-standard.com reported.

The institute will initially spend Rs50m ($0.94m) to set up packaging institute in Bangalore, of which Rs50,00,000 would come from the central government.

The new branch will allow IIP to promote the export market through new package design and development and the standards of packaging will also be upgraded at national level.

IIP governing body member Vimal Kedia said this is the first time the institute plans to expand in Karnataka.

"The institute is involved in various activities like testing and quality evaluation, training, education, consultancy services, R&D among others in other centers," Kedia said.

With its head office and principal laboratory located at Mumbai, the institute has branches in Delhi, Kolkata, Chennai and Hyderabad.

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Quebec Troops Leave for Afghanistan

OTTAWA, ONTARIO--(Marketwire - Oct. 14, 2012) - Today, the first group of soldiers, most of whom are from the Quebec area, left Quebec City for Afghanistan for their mission to provide training and professional development to the National Security Forces of Afghanistan until June 2013.

"As our troops fly out, I am proud of our men and women in uniform and their commitment to Canada's engagement in Afghanistan," said the Honourable Peter MacKay, Minister of National Defence. "Canadian troops take real pride in the fact that they are promoting security through training and mentoring efforts."

Canada is the second largest contributor to the NATO Training Mission-Afghanistan after the United States, with approximately 900 Canadian Forces members working in a whole-of-government capacity alongside 37 partner nations to enable the growth, professionalization and capacity building of the Afghan National Security Forces.

The troops completed four months of intensive training at Canadian Forces Base Valcartier for their new role as mentors and instructors to the National Security Forces of Afghanistan.

"In the past month, these motivated and trained soldiers have demonstrated their high level of professionalism and readiness," said the commander of the Canadian Army, Lieutenant-General Peter Devlin. "Our soldiers will continue to make a positive, effective and lasting difference in the lives of the Afghan people, during this upcoming mission."

Operation ATTENTION is Canada's participation in the NATO Training Mission-Afghanistan, which delivers training and professional development support to the National Security Forces of Afghanistan: the Afghan National Army, the Afghan Air Force and the Afghan National Police.

For further information on Operation ATTENTION and the Canadian Contribution Training Mission - Afghanistan, please visit: http://www.cjoc-coic.forces.gc.ca/exp/attention/index-eng.asp

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Sunday, October 14, 2012

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Alright, so last night we went to see Reel Big Fish and we were both rolling.? Before we left to the show, I left a couple things on her bed and I noticed blood and a few cut marks.? We get to the show, we're chillen, and I'm rolling hard enough to confront her about the blood.? Now, she used to cut herself (since like 6th grade) but she told me she stopped.? I tell her about it, and she goes on how she's not doing it to harm her self, more as a reality check.? After a long talk, we stopped talking about it and tried to enjoy ourselves.? Fast forward to after the show at her house, she tells me to not worry about her cutting and she doesn't do it much anymore, and that the reason she decide to cut again was because her ex asshole boyfriend has been talking mad shit about her.

So shroomery, what can I do to help her? I really love her and I want her to be ok.? She has some pretty hefty issues she needs to deal with.? She tells me to not worry and it's not my responsibility to help her, but I want to.? I want everyone to be happy, but I can't make everyone happy.? If I could at least help the people I love, that'd be enough, but it seems like I can't even help them... :feelssadman:

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Please help!!! It pains me so much that she does this! I need advice!

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How do you think an acid trip would effect her? I'm hoping it might show her the light, but I fear that she'll be refusing the light and might spiral her into a bad trip.......... GAH!!! I feel terrible about this! All I want is to help the girl I love!

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Sounds to me like she needs other ways to vent her emotions/frustrations. Not sure if an acid trip is the first thing I'd try, to be honest. Drugs are rarely the answer.

Does your gf do any form of physical exercise?

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No, i think she has some real issues deep inside she needs to confront.
She needs a lot more help than an acid trip.
Has she ever seen a therapist?

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Sounds to me like she needs other ways to vent her emotions/frustrations. Not sure if an acid trip is the first thing I'd try, to be honest. Drugs are rarely the answer.

Does your gf do any form of physical exercise?


We hike and go on long walks, but that's it.? I'm going to start taking her to yoga with me.

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No, i think she has some real issues deep inside she needs to confront.
She needs a lot more help than an acid trip.
Has she ever seen a therapist?

She has seen therapists and been on anti-depressants and stuff, but she says she wants to fight through the issues, rather than put a band aid over an injury that needs stitches.? I gave her my flower therapists number, so hopefully she'll call.

The reason I ask about the cid trip, is that it's helped me a lot, and other people.? It's not like we're gonna trip to try to help her, we're tripping for my birthday and if she has some revelations, than great.

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Ok, it just seemed like that was your first option.
Now that you put it that way, i don't think it's a bad idea.

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Get her to start taking martial arts, I know from personal experience (I was a cutter for years) that some people just need some physical pain in order to help them cope... its weird I know but its true. Martial arts will give her a healthy outlet for her frustrations that also helps satisfy that "pain" need. Might also suggest tattooing for her, I've used that as an "emergency" relief method when the urge to cut again gets really intense. I just had a tattoo artist who understood and was pre-payed up with so if it got real bad I could give a call he'd fit me in and that would be that.

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Cut yourself with her and make it a couples thing so she doesn't feel alone.

Naw I'm jokin. I have no clue what you could do. Try telling her as much as you can how much self worth she has in this life and how much she means to everyone in her life.

Maybe she needs to confront some shit from her past. We all go through some fucked up shit but harming yourself or others ain't no way to deal with it.

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Damn that's rough dude. The yoga thing might be a good idea. The acid thing maybe not... Psychedelics helped my mental health a lot but not everyone reacts the same way. I guess just spend a lot of time with her and try to help her see the light and know that you care about her. Life's pretty damn awesome when you've got the right attitude but sometimes it's hard to see that

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Drugs are a bad idea.

How about encouraging her gently to seek professional help? If she is in school this should be "free" and I assume even in dog-eat-dog country we call America there should be low cost to free resources outside of an educational setting.

Pro-tip: Do not stay with someone who admits they have a problem and that they should seek help, but ultimately refuses to even when the opportunity is made easy. That speaks to deeper issues, and despite what you might think you can't help someone who doesn't want to help [gender neutral]self.

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I'm really trying to get her to go to my flower therapist.? Acid wasn't my first choice, it's one of my last options.? She's been to therapists, but she said that didn't help too much.? Most didn't really help me either.? Acid is what really helped me... which is why I'm thinking about dosing her.? I try to spend as much time as possible with her, in fact we're going to this vegan place for dinner in a little.? I'm just going to subtly help her and make her feel as awesome as she really is.? SHE'S SO COOL! That's what makes me feel so bad! If I had to describe someone as a "rad chick" it'd be her.?

Thanks SO much for all your advice.

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Be patient and supportive.? This sort of habit is similar to a self-destructive drug habit, and also very common in all sorts of awesome people.?

Don't be hard on her or freak out, but try to steer her towards more healthy emotional outlets.

I think people who recommend acid are nuts.? Acid is fun but it stresses me the fuck out and doesn't leave me feeling more in control of my emotions in the end.

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I think the best thing you could do is have her tell you when the urges are there, so you can help her work through them (which i think is the best you could do for her, but she'll only stop when she's ready to, though you can help her get to that point quicker)

Get her to feel like she can talk about anything and not be afraid/ashamed etc.

i second the martial arts thing, i dont do it anymore, but they are a very good outlet for stress.

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DUDES! So tonight was awesome.? We went to dinner and then we had a very long talk, and she said that she hates to see me worry for her, so she's going to stop.? I told her I understand how hard it can be to stop, and I told her that even though I'd rather she just straight up not cut herself, to start doing it less and less and not as painful.? Luckily, she doesn't even cut deeply anymore, so it's already a step forward.

She knows she has issues but she says that she's not ready to face them, which I can respect.? She said she wants to do acid for the sole purpose of hopefully getting something out it, but she's not gonna force anything therapeutical to happen.? God damn, I love her so much.

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I am actually really happy with how things worked out.?

Different topic:

How do you know if you're falling in love?

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